Some of the most frustrating experiences we sometimes go through come about due to the failure of our boyfriends to answer their phones. When you call your guy repeatedly and he does not pick up the phone, you will start getting concerned about what could be happening. It is therefore helpful if you have some idea on how you can handle such a situation.
One of the first things you need to understand is the fact that men tend to picture and use the phone in a different way from us. You should therefore have some knowledge as to how the guys view the phone. Having a sound grasp of the issues mentioned in this article will help you to have a more stable relationship with your man.
He does not keep his promise to call
This situation is more common than you may imagine. Many women complain that they do not understand what came over their boyfriends all over a sudden. He used to be very much in love, and would call even several times in a day. At some point, he gave his word that he would call. You waited expectantly for him to call as usual. But he didn't call. In order to find out what happened, you called him instead. He didn't answer. You called again and again. What could be happening?
In such situations, we tend to worry ourselves stiff. The problem is that we are often quite impatient, and would like our boyfriends to call at the exact minutes they promised. However, things do not always work out that smoothly. Don't wear yourself out. There are very many genuine reasons that may have prevented your guy from calling. Here are just a few examples.
1. He may have gotten so busy that he hardly had enough time to make a call. Perhaps his busy schedule made him forget the call.
2. He may have had unexpected family commitments. For instance, may be some of his relatives came for an impromptu visit.
3. He may have gotten ill.
Basically, when your guy says that he will call, just wait for him to keep his promise. Don't start imagining things.
Are you wasting all your life on a guy who says he'd call you but never calls back? Learn how to make him call and recognize if he is interested in you OR he is not. You can find all the answers you need by visiting why doesn't he call?
onsdag den 3. juni 2009
dealing with your love?
One of the most widely accepted misconception about people is that we are creature of logic. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Dale Carnegie said it best when he said, "When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bustling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity."
It is a fact that we have to treat most people as if they were petulant three years old toddlers. When dealing with people, kid gloves are the order of the day. But that's not all. Not only do we have to wear kid gloves but is has to be done in a way that will not appear to be condescending. A rather tall order.
This delicate approach is best accomplished by using the you-you attitude. That is, the person that we are addressing has to be given the number one priority. That person has to be the central pivot of the of the interaction. It has to be done in a way that the major and most important player in the communication is the person we are communicating with.
The reason that is has to be done that way is that we have all the control over our own actions but we have very little control over others. We can adapt to the situation but it is next to impossible to control someone else's behavior.
There are times when we must disagree with others. It can be done and it can be done effectively so long as we start by agreeing with some part of the other person's views. That is an essential element if we do not want our interlocutor to go on the defensive and start justifying his position.
Someone said, "A world without euphemism would be a barbaric one." If we want to get along with people harmoniously, sometimes the truth has to be slightly colored. This by no way implies that a person should lie but tact and diplomacy never hurt anyone and has saved many situations.
Above all, we should never fall into the trap set by someone who claims that he wants the "honest truth." That person feels to be on safe ground and is ready an eager for a spirited debate. The ideal way to deal with this situation is to agree to tell the truth but then proceed with caution. That person does not want the truth. That person wants to hear what he or she wants to hear.
There are also times when we have to reprimand someone. It can be done without creating any ill will by using the sandwich method. That is, the reprimand has to be sandwiched between two "slices" of compliments. First, we give a compliment, then we formulate the reprimand and close the conversation with another compliment. The admonition will be just as effective and no resentment will be created.
When dealing with people it must always be kept in mind that the least offense can create a scar that will last for a lifetime. Decades down the line, people may have forgotten almost everything about you but they will not have forgotten the hurt that you may have caused them. Such is human nature.
It must always be kept in mind that, the stronger the person, the more giving that person will be and the weaker a person is, the more demanding that person will be. The secret in dealing with people is to take the strong person's stance. The strong person can meet the weaker one at his level without feeling diminished in the process. That's a luxury that a weaker person cannot afford.
It is a fact that we have to treat most people as if they were petulant three years old toddlers. When dealing with people, kid gloves are the order of the day. But that's not all. Not only do we have to wear kid gloves but is has to be done in a way that will not appear to be condescending. A rather tall order.
This delicate approach is best accomplished by using the you-you attitude. That is, the person that we are addressing has to be given the number one priority. That person has to be the central pivot of the of the interaction. It has to be done in a way that the major and most important player in the communication is the person we are communicating with.
The reason that is has to be done that way is that we have all the control over our own actions but we have very little control over others. We can adapt to the situation but it is next to impossible to control someone else's behavior.
There are times when we must disagree with others. It can be done and it can be done effectively so long as we start by agreeing with some part of the other person's views. That is an essential element if we do not want our interlocutor to go on the defensive and start justifying his position.
Someone said, "A world without euphemism would be a barbaric one." If we want to get along with people harmoniously, sometimes the truth has to be slightly colored. This by no way implies that a person should lie but tact and diplomacy never hurt anyone and has saved many situations.
Above all, we should never fall into the trap set by someone who claims that he wants the "honest truth." That person feels to be on safe ground and is ready an eager for a spirited debate. The ideal way to deal with this situation is to agree to tell the truth but then proceed with caution. That person does not want the truth. That person wants to hear what he or she wants to hear.
There are also times when we have to reprimand someone. It can be done without creating any ill will by using the sandwich method. That is, the reprimand has to be sandwiched between two "slices" of compliments. First, we give a compliment, then we formulate the reprimand and close the conversation with another compliment. The admonition will be just as effective and no resentment will be created.
When dealing with people it must always be kept in mind that the least offense can create a scar that will last for a lifetime. Decades down the line, people may have forgotten almost everything about you but they will not have forgotten the hurt that you may have caused them. Such is human nature.
It must always be kept in mind that, the stronger the person, the more giving that person will be and the weaker a person is, the more demanding that person will be. The secret in dealing with people is to take the strong person's stance. The strong person can meet the weaker one at his level without feeling diminished in the process. That's a luxury that a weaker person cannot afford.
how to act when you are in love?
In as much as guys try to hide their feelings from girls, the feelings are always discovered by those who understand how guys act when they are in love. The question is how does a boy act when he likes a girl?
When a guy likes you the first thing he thinks is how to communicate that love to you. So, he begins to act out his feelings in different ways.
If he likes you, he'll find out things about you. He would prefer to surprise you by letting you know those things he knows about you. For instance, he would surprise you by calling you by your name even though you have not met officially. This is to make the relationship informal and quicken the friendship.
Furthermore, he expresses his feelings through his looks. He delights in looking at you and does everything possible to have your presence or be in your presence.
If he succeeds in initiating a conversation with you, he would double the chances by the day and make it a point of duty to keep in touch with you.
He would find out the types of color you like and present them to you in gifts. A guy who likes you would keep your memorable days. He already desires you to be part of his life, so, he indicates that by keeping your important dates. For instance, he'll present you with a lovely gift on your birthday.
As soon as he gets the green light from you, he'll guard you jealously and would not want any guy to pose a threat to your relationship.
He would look for an opportunity to take you out on a date. He would like you to spend your dates in places where you would be 100% available to each other.
You would be so surprised when you meet his friends, your name is already circulated and you are well known and admired.
Knowing how a boy would act if he likes you is mostly explained by relationship experts. But there is one that stands out with listening ears and has credibility for his lasting solutions.
When a guy likes you the first thing he thinks is how to communicate that love to you. So, he begins to act out his feelings in different ways.
If he likes you, he'll find out things about you. He would prefer to surprise you by letting you know those things he knows about you. For instance, he would surprise you by calling you by your name even though you have not met officially. This is to make the relationship informal and quicken the friendship.
Furthermore, he expresses his feelings through his looks. He delights in looking at you and does everything possible to have your presence or be in your presence.
If he succeeds in initiating a conversation with you, he would double the chances by the day and make it a point of duty to keep in touch with you.
He would find out the types of color you like and present them to you in gifts. A guy who likes you would keep your memorable days. He already desires you to be part of his life, so, he indicates that by keeping your important dates. For instance, he'll present you with a lovely gift on your birthday.
As soon as he gets the green light from you, he'll guard you jealously and would not want any guy to pose a threat to your relationship.
He would look for an opportunity to take you out on a date. He would like you to spend your dates in places where you would be 100% available to each other.
You would be so surprised when you meet his friends, your name is already circulated and you are well known and admired.
Knowing how a boy would act if he likes you is mostly explained by relationship experts. But there is one that stands out with listening ears and has credibility for his lasting solutions.
communicate like a rockstar alphamale
One glossed over issue, that is so important, is part of flirting where you listen. Last article was an examination of what not to say; this article will look at what to DO when not saying anything at all!
It's vitally important to be a good listener. You show interest in her, and it allows you time to determine what is happening non verbally. You'll be able to watch and see if things are going in the right direction.
It's not all about shutting up and letting the other person talk, in other words. You are responsible for providing some feedback to them with verbal and non verbal signals alike.
The main thing these signals show is that you are paying attention and are interested. If you can't show these, don't be surprised if the conversation shuts down and the woman closes off.
So what are good signals of feedback? Nodding, smiling, showing responsive facial expressions, and leaning into the person (correctly timed), all play a part of it. All convey interest and attention.
Verbally, well timed expressions help, normally ones of agreement. Saying "uh-huh" quickly, or "ah", will display interest when timed right.
This goes for talking to other men as well. Basic signals like these are effective in all manner of interaction, including job interviews. Being as powerful as they are, it's worth noting their importance.
Another great tool is paraphrasing. The idea is to summarize what they said back to them. "So you were out of gas in the middle of nowhere? How'd you get out of that?" It's particularly powerful when used on a shy woman.
One mistake to avoid while doing this: make sure the question isn't a closed ended one, but rather open ended. If the person is asked for an explanation, then it's open ended. It keeps the flow going. If she can say yes or no, then it's closed ended. Not what you want.
A good way to remember this is to think of the words Who, What, When, Where, How, and Why. They are the interrogative words that, when used, require more than yes or no to be used in response.
So what we need to know, when it comes to listening, is this: we are trying to appear that we are paying attention and interested. It's normally a good idea if you are regardless ( I tend not to waste my time if I'm not interested).
As well, with your nonverbal and verbal responses, you propel the conversation along, and sending the messages to her that she's worth talking to.
The key again is practice. Be AWARE of her while flirting. Listen to what she says. Pay attention to the content. And TRY to take an active interest in her!
Make an effort to do the above. Most girls will reciprocate. If you are working with the other methods described in this series, you'll probably gain rapport, and that's a HUGE step in making your flirting successful!
It's vitally important to be a good listener. You show interest in her, and it allows you time to determine what is happening non verbally. You'll be able to watch and see if things are going in the right direction.
It's not all about shutting up and letting the other person talk, in other words. You are responsible for providing some feedback to them with verbal and non verbal signals alike.
The main thing these signals show is that you are paying attention and are interested. If you can't show these, don't be surprised if the conversation shuts down and the woman closes off.
So what are good signals of feedback? Nodding, smiling, showing responsive facial expressions, and leaning into the person (correctly timed), all play a part of it. All convey interest and attention.
Verbally, well timed expressions help, normally ones of agreement. Saying "uh-huh" quickly, or "ah", will display interest when timed right.
This goes for talking to other men as well. Basic signals like these are effective in all manner of interaction, including job interviews. Being as powerful as they are, it's worth noting their importance.
Another great tool is paraphrasing. The idea is to summarize what they said back to them. "So you were out of gas in the middle of nowhere? How'd you get out of that?" It's particularly powerful when used on a shy woman.
One mistake to avoid while doing this: make sure the question isn't a closed ended one, but rather open ended. If the person is asked for an explanation, then it's open ended. It keeps the flow going. If she can say yes or no, then it's closed ended. Not what you want.
A good way to remember this is to think of the words Who, What, When, Where, How, and Why. They are the interrogative words that, when used, require more than yes or no to be used in response.
So what we need to know, when it comes to listening, is this: we are trying to appear that we are paying attention and interested. It's normally a good idea if you are regardless ( I tend not to waste my time if I'm not interested).
As well, with your nonverbal and verbal responses, you propel the conversation along, and sending the messages to her that she's worth talking to.
The key again is practice. Be AWARE of her while flirting. Listen to what she says. Pay attention to the content. And TRY to take an active interest in her!
Make an effort to do the above. Most girls will reciprocate. If you are working with the other methods described in this series, you'll probably gain rapport, and that's a HUGE step in making your flirting successful!
flirting
So you have her talking - well done! Now you have to learn to take turns speaking - it's an important part of your flirting arsenal. Here's an example of why this is important to know: you are speaking with a nice young woman, and it appears to be going well. You keep talking, and then her eyes wander. Soon, the conversation just winds down, and she's gone. So what happened there? It could be a bunch of things, but perhaps the most common mistake that men (and women) make is lack of recognizing the tempo of conversation, and that they need to take turns. The vocal inflection of another person will indicate WHEN it is time to talk.
Too often, people who are frightened of speaking, when finally given the chance, will tend to blabber like there is no tomorrow. Understandably so - it's NICE to have someone paying attention to you. But true rapport and conversation isn't like this. And after time, a blabbermouth will eventually run people off. In a recent article, I wrote about vocal signals, one of them being the change in intonation when finishing a sentence, indicating it's time for the other person to speak.
You MUST learn these signals. Look at it from the outside - have you ever met a person with the speaking eloquence of Oscar Wilde, witty and sharp tongued, yet was completely despised because NO ONE could get a word in edge wise? Another problematic personality, like the one above, is from the person who doesn't put in any effort to the conversation at all. No feedback, and no input of their own. Don't be this guy; it's exhausting and people will actively avoid you. Being either of the above is a death sentence for your social standing in a large group. Take care not to become one of them!
So how do we avoid this? By allotting equal time for each person. You should speak the same amount of time as the other person. Most of the time, a pause is a sufficient signal. But it isn't always the case. In the earlier articles I wrote about in the nonverbal section, there are some nonverbal cues that will allow us to see when it's time. The first is eye contact - the woman might glance away while finishing the sentence. As well, there is the matter of rising and falling intonation - an intonation change will indicate, as well, that they are finished speaking. Listen also for a drop in volume at the end of the sentence - it's the final clue.
So we have these cues: length of their turn, pause, intonation at the end of the sentence, eyes turning away at the end of the sentence, and a drop of volume. If any of these happen in combination, it's usually a good sign that it is your turn to speak. When you speak with others, try to make the turns equal length. You'll be surprised at the effect - you'll be considered a great person to talk to! Soon, I'll write about the actual WHAT of conversations - what you should actually SAY when speaking to another person!
Too often, people who are frightened of speaking, when finally given the chance, will tend to blabber like there is no tomorrow. Understandably so - it's NICE to have someone paying attention to you. But true rapport and conversation isn't like this. And after time, a blabbermouth will eventually run people off. In a recent article, I wrote about vocal signals, one of them being the change in intonation when finishing a sentence, indicating it's time for the other person to speak.
You MUST learn these signals. Look at it from the outside - have you ever met a person with the speaking eloquence of Oscar Wilde, witty and sharp tongued, yet was completely despised because NO ONE could get a word in edge wise? Another problematic personality, like the one above, is from the person who doesn't put in any effort to the conversation at all. No feedback, and no input of their own. Don't be this guy; it's exhausting and people will actively avoid you. Being either of the above is a death sentence for your social standing in a large group. Take care not to become one of them!
So how do we avoid this? By allotting equal time for each person. You should speak the same amount of time as the other person. Most of the time, a pause is a sufficient signal. But it isn't always the case. In the earlier articles I wrote about in the nonverbal section, there are some nonverbal cues that will allow us to see when it's time. The first is eye contact - the woman might glance away while finishing the sentence. As well, there is the matter of rising and falling intonation - an intonation change will indicate, as well, that they are finished speaking. Listen also for a drop in volume at the end of the sentence - it's the final clue.
So we have these cues: length of their turn, pause, intonation at the end of the sentence, eyes turning away at the end of the sentence, and a drop of volume. If any of these happen in combination, it's usually a good sign that it is your turn to speak. When you speak with others, try to make the turns equal length. You'll be surprised at the effect - you'll be considered a great person to talk to! Soon, I'll write about the actual WHAT of conversations - what you should actually SAY when speaking to another person!
communication for nerds
When learning to flirt, there are several basics that can put you light years ahead of most. In the last article, I wrote about the importance of turn taking. In this one, I'll write about the actual nature of the content that you talk about.
There are rules that you'll need to know. And as it were, most men don't know them! Knowing them is important, as you'll avoid much a lot of pain that goes into failed flirting.
It's not so much the content of what you are saying, but rather the delivery and it's tone. For example if you drone on negatively about a certain subject, you are bound to eventually drive someone off.
It's a simple mistake, and understandable. We live in a culture that celebrates cynicism to an extent, so people tend to embrace it. Overall, a little goes a long way though. Avoid that in your conversations, as you'll bore her and she'll get fed up with you.
Other ways to make a conversation boring are as follows:
Preoccupation with yourself. If you talk about yourself constantly, and show no interest in others (particularly her!), you are definitely going to have a short run.
Superficiality - talking only about the banal, telling hackneyed jokes or stories. This reeks of shallowness, just like the stories.
Being tedious - Talking too slowly, pausing too long, and taking too long to make a point. This is common, as people try to appear calm and smooth in their interactions. Remember, there is always a balance.
Too passive - just refusing to take part and leaving the conversation on the other person.
Lacking in enthusiasm or interest - this would include being monotone, showing no emotion, and refusing to make eye contact. This will quickly ruin your chances.
Being too serious or somber - There are times you NEED to be serious, but you need to be able to shake that off and clown around sometimes. If you don't do it, your conversation might abruptly end.
Too excited - you jump all over the place in the conversation, get sidetracked from the original point too easily. This will drive the other person nuts, and it's generally a good idea to learn to reign this in.
So what IS a good thing to say? Aside from avoiding the above issues, there are a few things you can do. The first is to keep on the topic, and allow for turn taking. The second is to do your part in gauging the conversation, keep a positive attitude, and make it fun! Being fun is a huge part, and you can talk about almost anything!
Another thing to look at - compliments. They can be good, and are usually most welcome. However, you CAN go overboard. If you do, the situation is recoverable though.
If you do pay a compliment, be cautious of the nature of it. You can convey attraction without having to resort to vulgar or intrusive compliments. If you know the person, you can judge it better, but be aware of this issue.
Keeping it simple, and saying something such as "You look gorgeous", can go a long way. Going further than this can cause offense or embarrassment. While that is not always the case, it's a gambit that might not work out. Make sure to look her in the eyes while doing this - looking anywhere else could be potentially bad.
As well, while commenting on a woman's appearance, remember that there is a time and place for everything. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is the timing your compliments poorly, as well as an other flirtatious overture.
Always be aware of the flirtatious overtures you are making. Sometimes it is obvious - you'd want to avoid saying something to someone who just lost a loved one, for example. But there are other times, when it's not so obvious.
A good rule of thumb is to think about it in neutral terms. In other words, would you compliment a man in the situation? Would it seem appropriate? The same would apply if it was a woman. Keep it within those boundaries, and you'll do fine.
While compliments are just a small part, they are important, and when used right will propel the attraction, instead of destroying it.
Pay attention to yourself during a conversation. Take notes too, if you can. Look for the rules mentioned above, and make sure to correct yourself after it happens. Eventually you'll smooth things out.
Coming up soon, I'll show you how listening is another important part of your conversational skills,
There are rules that you'll need to know. And as it were, most men don't know them! Knowing them is important, as you'll avoid much a lot of pain that goes into failed flirting.
It's not so much the content of what you are saying, but rather the delivery and it's tone. For example if you drone on negatively about a certain subject, you are bound to eventually drive someone off.
It's a simple mistake, and understandable. We live in a culture that celebrates cynicism to an extent, so people tend to embrace it. Overall, a little goes a long way though. Avoid that in your conversations, as you'll bore her and she'll get fed up with you.
Other ways to make a conversation boring are as follows:
Preoccupation with yourself. If you talk about yourself constantly, and show no interest in others (particularly her!), you are definitely going to have a short run.
Superficiality - talking only about the banal, telling hackneyed jokes or stories. This reeks of shallowness, just like the stories.
Being tedious - Talking too slowly, pausing too long, and taking too long to make a point. This is common, as people try to appear calm and smooth in their interactions. Remember, there is always a balance.
Too passive - just refusing to take part and leaving the conversation on the other person.
Lacking in enthusiasm or interest - this would include being monotone, showing no emotion, and refusing to make eye contact. This will quickly ruin your chances.
Being too serious or somber - There are times you NEED to be serious, but you need to be able to shake that off and clown around sometimes. If you don't do it, your conversation might abruptly end.
Too excited - you jump all over the place in the conversation, get sidetracked from the original point too easily. This will drive the other person nuts, and it's generally a good idea to learn to reign this in.
So what IS a good thing to say? Aside from avoiding the above issues, there are a few things you can do. The first is to keep on the topic, and allow for turn taking. The second is to do your part in gauging the conversation, keep a positive attitude, and make it fun! Being fun is a huge part, and you can talk about almost anything!
Another thing to look at - compliments. They can be good, and are usually most welcome. However, you CAN go overboard. If you do, the situation is recoverable though.
If you do pay a compliment, be cautious of the nature of it. You can convey attraction without having to resort to vulgar or intrusive compliments. If you know the person, you can judge it better, but be aware of this issue.
Keeping it simple, and saying something such as "You look gorgeous", can go a long way. Going further than this can cause offense or embarrassment. While that is not always the case, it's a gambit that might not work out. Make sure to look her in the eyes while doing this - looking anywhere else could be potentially bad.
As well, while commenting on a woman's appearance, remember that there is a time and place for everything. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is the timing your compliments poorly, as well as an other flirtatious overture.
Always be aware of the flirtatious overtures you are making. Sometimes it is obvious - you'd want to avoid saying something to someone who just lost a loved one, for example. But there are other times, when it's not so obvious.
A good rule of thumb is to think about it in neutral terms. In other words, would you compliment a man in the situation? Would it seem appropriate? The same would apply if it was a woman. Keep it within those boundaries, and you'll do fine.
While compliments are just a small part, they are important, and when used right will propel the attraction, instead of destroying it.
Pay attention to yourself during a conversation. Take notes too, if you can. Look for the rules mentioned above, and make sure to correct yourself after it happens. Eventually you'll smooth things out.
Coming up soon, I'll show you how listening is another important part of your conversational skills,
communication for shy guys
What is it about shy guys and communication? Shy guys may have a little more trouble expressing themselves in an outgoing people. Sometimes they need that little extra "push" to get them talking.
On he plus side, shy guys are less likely to be loudmouthed or dominate the conversation. They are more likely to let the other person talk, too.
To talk to the shy guy, try showing interest in him. Ask him questions that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." Questions such as "How do you like living here?" "How long have you lived in this area?" "What do you do for recreation?", "Do you enjoy sports?" and suchlike are excellent ways to get the conversational ball rolling.
You may have to make a little effort to balance the two-way exchange. We are all told that dominating the conversation is not a good thing, and the shy guy may feel guilty or uncomfortable if you try to push him to do all the talking. So balance your asking of questions with sharing a little about yourself as well. This will help to balance out the conversation and keep it from sounding like an interview.
You may find that talking to the shy guy is a little bit like priming the pump. You need a few cranks of a lever to get it going. The response to your question of "How do you like it here?" May bring a response of "Well, it's all right, I guess. "
So, to balance the two-way exchange, you may mention how much you enjoy living in the area, how your family all lives here, and how you like to go to the park frequently. Then you ask the shy guy another question.
By sharing a little of yourself, You show that you're willing to give as well as take, so the shy guy is more likely to be feel comfortable in sharing of himself. Your next questions are more likely to bring a good response, but you may need to repeat this process a few times in your conversation to really get things going.
Remember these things about shy guys and communication and I think you will find that shy guys can be great people to talk to.
On he plus side, shy guys are less likely to be loudmouthed or dominate the conversation. They are more likely to let the other person talk, too.
To talk to the shy guy, try showing interest in him. Ask him questions that can't be answered with a simple "yes" or "no." Questions such as "How do you like living here?" "How long have you lived in this area?" "What do you do for recreation?", "Do you enjoy sports?" and suchlike are excellent ways to get the conversational ball rolling.
You may have to make a little effort to balance the two-way exchange. We are all told that dominating the conversation is not a good thing, and the shy guy may feel guilty or uncomfortable if you try to push him to do all the talking. So balance your asking of questions with sharing a little about yourself as well. This will help to balance out the conversation and keep it from sounding like an interview.
You may find that talking to the shy guy is a little bit like priming the pump. You need a few cranks of a lever to get it going. The response to your question of "How do you like it here?" May bring a response of "Well, it's all right, I guess. "
So, to balance the two-way exchange, you may mention how much you enjoy living in the area, how your family all lives here, and how you like to go to the park frequently. Then you ask the shy guy another question.
By sharing a little of yourself, You show that you're willing to give as well as take, so the shy guy is more likely to be feel comfortable in sharing of himself. Your next questions are more likely to bring a good response, but you may need to repeat this process a few times in your conversation to really get things going.
Remember these things about shy guys and communication and I think you will find that shy guys can be great people to talk to.
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